In fact, in my dating heyday, I didn’t just try JDate. Just like alcohol can be used recreationally or abusively, so can I tried Match, Chemistry, e Harmony, Nerve, American Singles, Matchmaker… What’s similar is that the users always think that they’ve got it under control, and that nobody’s getting hurt in the process. There’s a delusional aspect to successful online dating—one that I’ve embodied—one that I’ve seen in my clients as well.Check in with your friend during the date or ask your friend to call you during the date to let them know how you are doing.Besides, this can be used as an escape clause if you feel like the date isn’t going well: “Hey Jim, my friend needs me because of an emergency and we have to end the date.” Third, drive yourself to the date and drive home by yourself.Maybe your month ran out on JDate and you want to try Saw You At Sinai.Maybe the pickings were slim on Chemistry, so you branched out to Perfect Match.After a month of mourning and attempted make-up sex, he reposts his profile once again. Naturally, I’ve long been an advocate for online dating, not because it’s perfect, but because it ALWAYS created a love life for me.
” Let’s face it, I was no angel when I began dating after my divorce and I operated on an “it’s all about me” strategy.
Meeting and building quick rapport is so easy online and lately I’ve noticed that women all too often let their guard down, lose their common sense or abandon their self protection to a total stranger.
Reflecting back to when I was single and looking after my divorce, I’m shocked at how easily a woman WHO I DID NOT KNOW would invite me to her home (having never met me before) after a few chats via phone/email/text.
My experiences and understanding the way men think and act has allowed me to share my wisdom to help women who are single and looking.
So my lesson today is to recognize that sometimes intuition can be confused by the chemical attraction or connection we feel for another person “as if we’ve known them all our life.” Common sense can be thrown out the window by believing it’s our inner voice talking.There is safety in numbers and meeting for the first time in a restaurant or coffee shop would provide enough witnesses should the date turn sour.