At this point in time, our differences seemed to be too wide to merge them into a happy, long-lasting life together. After one year—when I had already returned to my home country—he approached me again, explaining how wrong he was, and asking for a second chance.
I didn’t know what this implied, but my heart was saying wholeheartedly as I was confident the differences weren’t stronger than our love.
I use different channels for communication, and surprise my honey from time to time with a postcard, a colorful photo, or an unexpected call.
We don‘t hear from each other every day; sometimes we can‘t Skype for days due to clashing schedules or bad Internet connections. We remember to respect the other person‘s schedule and space; we don‘t expect the other one to be available all the time.
“Distance means so little when someone means so much.” ~Unknown People tend to think long-distance relationships are one of the hardest possible ways of loving someone.
I live in one: As a young European, I am deeply in love with my African boyfriend who pursues his career in Asia. After dating for a few months and sharing a wonderful time in an Asian country, we split up, as he had many doubts about things that seemed to separate us.
As long as you respect and love your partner, you will always find a way to deal mindfully with conflict and disagreement. Just make sure the time with each other is well spent. Try to treat the distance as a friend, not an enemy.
Every relationship faces challenges, and doubts may plague us sometimes. I’m not suggesting oppressing worries (that may be reasonable in unhealthy relationships), but I’d like to encourage you to choose a positive outlook when it’s healthy, instead of blocking yourself with limiting thoughts or labels.
I don’t deny we live on two different continents, and can‘t have breakfasts in bed or spontaneous weekend trips to the sea.
But I always wished for a wonderful man with a beautiful character who loves me for who I am.
Keep learning from each other, and don’t be afraid of discovering the flaws or challenges the other one may have. Also, talk about where you want to head together and how you want to live.
Try to first see what it is that makes you irritated, and exchange thoughts about it calmly and respectfully. It’s important to create a vision together to know you’re on the same page.I think it’s important to keep it light to a certain degree so that there’s no need of constant (virtual) presence that would be draining at some point.